The Bystander Effect explains the Assault at 360 #FindThe5

If a woman in a crowded parking lot is assaulted by 5 men, does she need to call out for help?

And if she does, will it make a difference?

The short form answer is no.

The explanation is more morose; chivalry is dead. Men today have bigger muscles than decades ago, wear tighter, muscle-gripping clothing, but when push comes to shove they will not intervene lest they spoil their hairstyle that took them hours of blow-drying and tons of mousse to perfect.

The bystander effect explains what happened on Friday evening.

Just what exactly is the bystander effect?

To answer that question, let us ask another question: if you were to have a flat tire and need assistance, where are you more likely to receive it? On a crowded, busy road with cars zooming past every 30 seconds, or a deserted, more abandoned road with cars coming by less frequently?

The answer is surprisingly the latter. And the reason: the bystander effect.

The bystander effect took its name as a result of a mugging that turned into a murder. A woman (it is disgusting how women are always the victims here, shames me deeply) was being mugged in an alley, she screamed and screamed until people from a nearby building came to their windows and made a commotion. The mugger ran away. However, upon noticing that no one was actually making a move to assist the woman who was lying on the ground, he went back to finish the job and subsequently murder her.

It is the mentality of passersby to believe that assistance will be provided by the next person. This chain goes on and on, and in the end, no one offers a helping hand.

One would have thought that the natural response to hearing a woman crying out loud, for whatsoever reason and in whatever wording she chooses, would elicit at the very least an inquiry or a second glance.

Had these people who are condemning the victim of the assault at 360 mall to screaming obscenities taken the time out of their lives to look, actually look at what was happening, they would have seen my friend, battered, bloody, bruised, using words to fend off her attackers. As opposed to what they chose to see and move on with their important lives, a woman yelling expletives at kids.

Society has become so jaded no body bothers to ask or wonder why, as long as it does not affect them, they care not.

And that is what my friend did wrong. She chose to stand up to a group of reckless teenagers pulling stunts inside a parking lot.

Why would one take it upon themselves to straighten reckless teenagers?

To break the chain of silence, to smash the bystander effect.

If anything, at least take that as a valuable lesson from what happened.

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